Comments on: Sticky Joysticks and Spiderman Costumes http://aftergraduation.net/blog/sticky-joysticks-and-spiderman-costumes/ Because someone has to answer the question "What now?" Mon, 31 Jan 2024 00:12:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Allison http://aftergraduation.net/blog/sticky-joysticks-and-spiderman-costumes/#comment-826 Allison Thu, 27 Jan 2024 00:59:26 +0000 http://aftergraduation.net/blog/?p=270#comment-826 I'm reminded of your post on why you are choosing not to have children, oddly enough. It's a selfish choice, but I don't mean "selfish" in a negative way at all. I admire you for making choices with your life that make you happy, because like you said, when you put yourself first, you can turn around and take better care of the world around you. I think I get bogged down on this need to sacrifice myself for the happiness of others sometimes, and while that seems like a noble thing to do, in the end, it doesn't really help anyone. I'm trying hard to take a more selfish approach to life, since a happier Alli means a happier everybody! I'm so glad you stopped by, Farnoosh! I always love your comments! I’m reminded of your post on why you are choosing not to have children, oddly enough. It’s a selfish choice, but I don’t mean “selfish” in a negative way at all. I admire you for making choices with your life that make you happy, because like you said, when you put yourself first, you can turn around and take better care of the world around you. I think I get bogged down on this need to sacrifice myself for the happiness of others sometimes, and while that seems like a noble thing to do, in the end, it doesn’t really help anyone. I’m trying hard to take a more selfish approach to life, since a happier Alli means a happier everybody!

I’m so glad you stopped by, Farnoosh! I always love your comments!

]]> By: Farnoosh http://aftergraduation.net/blog/sticky-joysticks-and-spiderman-costumes/#comment-825 Farnoosh Thu, 27 Jan 2024 00:21:32 +0000 http://aftergraduation.net/blog/?p=270#comment-825 Alli, what a gorgeous post, and what grand truths and so brave of you to say them. We are obliged to ourselves first. I advocate selfishness all my life and yet my friends believe me to be considerate, kind beyond words, useful, helpful, you name it, because I always put ME first and then I can take better care of the world around me. Sacrifice is way over rated. But compassion and giving, when you have first served yourself and ensured your own happiness, is key to a fulfilling life.....thank you - I came here to ask you something - email forthcoming - and got distracted with your amazing writing, all the way to the end. Alli, what a gorgeous post, and what grand truths and so brave of you to say them. We are obliged to ourselves first. I advocate selfishness all my life and yet my friends believe me to be considerate, kind beyond words, useful, helpful, you name it, because I always put ME first and then I can take better care of the world around me. Sacrifice is way over rated. But compassion and giving, when you have first served yourself and ensured your own happiness, is key to a fulfilling life…..thank you – I came here to ask you something – email forthcoming – and got distracted with your amazing writing, all the way to the end.

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